Is happiness and joy what you expect to feel during your first dance...or just the opposite?
If you're like most brides, there's a good chance that your first dance is giving you the jitters.
I hear this all the time from the wedding couples I work with - and hey, I totally get it. Unless you and your partner have taken some form of dance lessons, partner dancing is usually a completely foreign concept.
This can make you feel extremely uncomfortable on the dance floor, and strip you of the enjoyment you deserve to feel during this special moment.
If you're feeling a little uneasy about your dance and the thought of doing a big attention-grabbing routine freaks you out, I have something just for you.
I will be sharing three ways you can truly enjoy your first dance, even if you have no previous experience.
1. Focus on your partner while you're on the dance floor
Staying focused is an important way to keep the nerves at bay.
When you're in the middle of the dance floor and all your guests are staring, it can be so easy to lose track of your partner and feel self conscious while you're in the spotlight.
If feeling self conscious is what you fear, your goal is to be so laser focused on your partner that you're not even aware of anyone else in the room.
Here are a few ways to narrow your focus.
- Pick a private area where you can be alone with your partner.
- Envision that you're on the dance floor in front of all your guests.
- Imagine every little detail you can - who is there, the decorations, etc.
- Then close your eyes, take a deep breath, and just focus on dancing with your partner.
- Every time your mind begins to wander, relax and reign all of your attention back to your partner.
This may take a little bit of practice but the more you do it, the sharper your focus will become. This will help you enjoy what matters the most, which is your special dance as a married couple.
2. Choose a first dance style that you're comfortable with
Having a big show stopping routine is not a requirement for an enjoyable dance.
I know they're fun to watch, but no one says you have to do what everyone else is doing on You tube.
This is your wedding, and your dance. And, you get to call the shots.
It all boils down to whether you want to dance for your guests and their applause, or dance for each other (or a little of both.)
There's no right or wrong choice here, and I personally enjoy watching both styles, equally.
But, if the thought of dancing an attention-grabbing routine freaks you out, there is nothing wrong with dancing a more intimate and beautiful dance, between you and your husband.
Take the pressure off yourself, and do whatever feels right for you and your comfort level.
3. Take dance lessons to help prepare for your wedding dance
I know, I know. If dancing freaks you out, why would you want to take dance lessons, right?
Well, even if you take just one lesson, it can make a world of difference for your wedding dance.
It can give you a game plan and a vision of what to expect so you don't get any unwanted surprises on the dance floor.
A dance lesson will also start you off on the right foot, and help you know exactly what to practice.
This will help you grow more and more comfortable dancing with your partner, so the two of you can feel confident during the big dance.
Recap
So there you have it, three ways to truly enjoy your first dance as husband and wife.
- Stay focused on your partner
- Choose a dance style your comfortable with
- Take a dance lesson.
To take the next step in enjoying your first dance, get my FREE First Dance Starter Kit. It will cover the first three things you need to know to get started with partner dancing.
